Due to NaNoWriMo, which ate most of my November this year, I have fallen a bit behind with all of this grooving business. I’m still catching up with what all the lovely ladies have been doing, and I haven’t paid all that much attention to the targets I’d set myself, so I thought I’d have a bit of a ‘reboot’. I want to start by looking back on what I’ve achieved since the beginning of Kate’s Grooving Mums Blog-Hop, and then I want to refresh my list of targets to go for over the coming weeks.
Since grooving mums began, I have come quite a way, I think. In some areas I have leapt forwards, in others I’m needing to take baby steps as and when I can. The most important thing for me is learning to think more positively, and to improve my self-confidence as a result. As a person I’m quite insecure and I need a lot of reassurance. I’m not very confident in myself, and I find that often I don’t think I’m worth much at all as a mother, wife or woman. Underneath all of that though, hiding away, is some self-believe, and the knowledge that if I really do put my mind to it, I can do things, and I can do them well. I just need to unlock that part of me. So far I’ve managed to get out and socialise a lot more, which does certainly make me feel better about myself, and I’ve been working hard to talk to my partner more about how I’m feeling so that he can understand and help me. I’m still having trouble motivating myself to do the things I want to around the house and with the children, but I’m doing better than I had been previously, and I’m feeling more positive about it looking forward. I’m also going to be starting a new module with the Open University next year, which I hope will be something to get my brain going again and make me feel more confident as a woman too.
Looking forward, I want to:
- Continue Socialising. I want to carry on with this, because I know if I let it slide a little, I’ll soon end up becoming shy and avoiding it like I was before. So I’m going to make the effort to go out and socialise at least once a week, whether that’s meeting up with family/friends, going out to a baby group or the new writing group I’ve become part of. If I’m really not feeling up to much, I want to at least make the effort to go out to clinic and weigh Baby Turtle.
- Read and Write. I’ve joined up to the More Than A Mum Online Bookclub, and my other half bought me a Kindle as a gift for completing NaNoWriMo, so now seems like the perfect time for me to pick up reading again. I love to read, but it had become one of the things that I didn’t have time for. Now I’m going to make time! The same with my writing. I am a writer. I need to write, because there are so many stories in my head, and I actually think I’m okay at it, so I am vowing now not to give up with my writing, and to make time for at least a couple of writing sessions a week, even if the sessions are only 20 minutes long.
- Get Organised. I’m a disorganised person. I generally live in moderate chaos, not quite knowing what’s going on, or what should be. I am untidy and always running late. It makes me unhappy. I have this dream of being a super-organised super-woman, where everything is perfect, neat, on time, and does not have baby sick on it. This I know is unrealistic, but I would like to get a little bit more order in my life. I’ve devised a little daily routine of everything I would like to fit into the day, including healthy meals, time for my hobbies, and time to spend teaching and playing with the children. This is one of the targets that requires baby steps though, I think. So, to begin with I’m going to try and get to bed every night at a 10:30pm, and get up at 7:15, which should be very doable, even with broken sleep. Hopefully this will allow me to get up and have a good breakfast, and thus feel more positive about the day ahead. When I’ve got into that routine, I shall work towards getting more out of my day.
- Drink More. This also fits in with Kate’s recent prompt for we grooving mums to have a look at our health. Other than skipping breakfast and probably eating too much chocolate, I like to think that I eat quite healthily. However, I certainly don’t drink enough. I think the target is supposed to be 8 glasses of water per day, which I don’t get close to, and most of what I do drink is tea or coffee. I think it will help me all round if I drink more, so I’m going to try and drink 8 glasses of good stuff per day and limit myself to just one caffeinated drink.
So there we have it. It’s great to be back with the grooving mums!
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